Gay, straight or just perfect?

So I was listening to the radio last Wednesday and tuned in to hear a heated debate about a new medical procedure that can make gay people straight. The radio presenter, who was gay, was extremely offended by the American ‘doctor.’ When the presenter asked the doctor if it worked both ways, the reply was, ‘come again?’ Repeat: does it work both ways, like can it make a straight person gay? Not surprisingly, his question was dismissed and ridiculed.

In that moment it all became clear.

Now I know a lot of people have a problem with ‘gayness’, being gay, acting gay etc and although I thought I knew the reason why apparently I was wrong. In my humble opinion, the whole sexuality, ‘gay as abnormal’ argument is inherently flawed because it assumes that there are three types of sexuality – gay, straight and bisexual. 

So now let me take you back in time to when I studied economics in high school, about 20 years ago. In one class we learned about competition and were told that competition fell into three broad areas of Perfect, Imperfect and everything in between. Every country in the world lay somewhere on the line, between the two extremes. More importantly there was no country that had Perfect competition (America was the closest) and no country that had Imperfect competition (Albania was the closest.) We argued about the two types of competition and after many a heated debate finally came to the consensus that the best type of competition was straight down the middle, a perfect mix of the two extremes.

How is this relevant to sexuality?

Well, we have those that advocate straightness as the only norm and dismisses any variance as an abnormality or abomination even. Then there are those who argue that gayness is as normal as straightness and both sides agree on one thing, that there’s no such thing bisexuality as in get off the fence and declare your true position. So what if the case is that sexuality is on a straight line (excuse the pun) with Perfect gayness at one end and Perfect straightness at the other? Where we sit on this line then determines where we are sexually. For argument’s sake a macho rugby player may find himself way on the left and interestingly next to a not so macho ballet dancer. 

Let’s face it, we all have  our masculine and feminine sides and a man who cries at a movie is just a man who cries at a movie; a woman who enjoys playing football (or soccer) is just a woman who enjoys playing football. Society may associate both activities with one gender and by extension consider any deviation an indicator of deviation from the expected sexual preference of that gender but in reality it’s just not that simplistic.

People are just who they are so the whole gay debate is moot and essentially meaningless.

To suggest that there is a medical procedure for gayness is at best intriguing and at worst dangerous. I guess anything is possible but aren’t we being a little shortsighted about the consequences of  even discussing as medically legitimate the very idea of changing who a person is? At some point the death penalty seemed like a good idea until people realised that legal systems, however well intentioned, are subject to human error and failure.

Little help for those that had already been tried and hanged. 

My beef with all this is that there can never be a right a wrong in any of this, it’s about opinion or ideology and when I hear people like the guy on the radio offering to cure something he can never prove to be wrong in the first place, it’s infuriating. I am not saying that no one should have this experimental ‘operation’ but I just think that if you going to cure something then the least you can do is bother to prove scientifically that it is in fact something to be cured.

Right now all I see is opinion, judgment and bigotry.

We have the benefit of history and the present on just how dangerous acting on opinion or bigotry can be, think apartheid, slavery, the Holocaust, or the KKK. By accepting subjective opinion as fact and considering that a procedure to change something as inherent as sexuality is even viable, we are playing a very dangerous game. It’s like claiming to have a procedure that can cure race, Michael Jackson can tell you that actually you can’t and don’t even need to try. 

You simply cannot cure something you have failed to prove is a disease or a danger to the ‘afflicted.’

What that doctor on the radio and others have been doing for too long is trying to validate their opinions at the expense of other people’s right to be who they are, whatever that is. At best, trying to fix another person on such a fundamental level is plain foolish and at worst extremely dangerous. Like Rwanda and now Darfur, it is not a far stretch to move from being of the opinion that a group of people is imperfect to using that opinion as justification for murder, rape and genocide.

When opinion is mistaken for fact all you really get are idiots following idiots and a whole idiot army controlling then devastating the world. So I guess this isn’t about gay or straight, it’s about people. It’s about respect for the basic human right to just be you, without having other people’s opinion dictate how or who you live your life with. It’s about accepting that you and others are just perfect as you are – gay, straight or other.

So where do you stand on the line and does it even matter? Join the global conversation and leave a comment.

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11 Responses to “Gay, straight or just perfect?”

  1. Jeramia McCloud Says:

    A pleasure to come to your site. Thnks very much!

  2. Joseph Johnson Says:

    Lovely blog! Thanks for the useful information.

  3. Joseph Johnson Says:

    Well…..I agree with most of the things you said. Anyway, thanks!

  4. Jeramia McCloud Says:

    Thanks very much for your interesting post. Will be back in the future.

  5. What disgusts me is that a medical professional would believe that anyone would consent to something like that and speak about it in public, like being gay was an abhorent medical condition.

    He has a responsibility to be an unbiased, non-judgemental role model and he’s destroyed his own credibility in taking part in something so morally incorrect. Pretty ridiculous in the 21st century to genuinely believe that the majority of society is completely backwards in its collective thinking.

    Personally i believe the doctors behaviour is abnormal, as surely what constitutes abnormal behaviour is very different from generations before. And if so his abnormal behaviour should be studied and fixed, surgically if possible 😛 Would probably take a frontal labotomy for someone so single minded.

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